Trying to be supportive of his addiction but I don't know how

Welcome to SupportGroups.com, would be wise to let HIM take responsibility for himself as no one can change/fix/try to convince others of what they need to do to help themselves, THEY HAVE TO DO THAT, its a long process that he will have to undertake probably when he hits his all time low. I would consider asking yourself do you want to keep living this way & keep attempting to help/support, do damage patrol, as this will exhaust you & you will become very resentful towards him, I wont even begin w/the trust issues that are already on your radar screen. There are no quick answers or fixes for this. We're here to talk with anytime you feel like it & your not alone.

Take care of you.

April

well i kinda can feel where your coming from to but mine was my parents and unless he is ready for help and you chose to stay with him the stuff will continue like april said don't stop church just cause he did pray and keep your faith in god girl and any time you need some one i am just a step away my heart goes out to you just don't stop your subrity cause of him

Yes, welcome here. My husband did the same. My son and his wife did not want anything to do with me for fear of the kids,grand....I understand. WE are getting divorced now, this fellow is your B/F......MY son and grand kids ARE more important & I do not ever want to put them in danger of any kind. One day, I found pills on the floor behind the table....WHAT if: my baby g.daugher would have thought it was candy and ate IT ? No good, no way. WHAT is important to you? If you get better, perhaps he will to. I know it is hard to understand, but you are enabling him out of your LOVE for him. Yet, it hurts him. Cause his behaviors/actions will only get worse. THE drug becomes one's all and all. Nothing else matters. Free yourself, take care of yourself. Don't let yourself go down with the ship. I had to lose everything. But, today, I have a relation w/my son and g.kids. They are protected from The Using. AMEN. Just For Today, Living in the day.

I suggest that you let him handle his won addiction, you take care of yourself. i would really suggest that you check out some Alanon meetings. they will teach you how to handle your relationship and also how to keep yourself healthy and sane.

..your next move and decision need to be about you exclusively because at this point his actions do not have your best interests involved at all...period! I say this because I just came off the same binge cycle. When you make that decision he will make his adjustment....that's his bottom...you standing up and making plans for yourself ...trust me.....my wife just did what she needed to do and I decided to make a choice..

if you take care of yourself he will either be motivated to get help like HJS did, or he will continue with how he has been living... which is what he is doing anyway, so there willbe no change... or he may even get worse... but whether you stay or go you can't MAKE him stop, he is going to do whatever he wants... but if you take care of yourself, then no matter what he decides, you will be okay.

If you haven't checked out Nar-Anon yet, you should look it up.